Tuesday, 17 September 2019

Marlon’s catharsis over Trump

                          




Hey guys,

I am one of those who believes that when they feel something is bothering them, they must try to find the way to release those negative feelings.

So this video is my way to get rid of the negative feelings Donald Trump ignates in me hehehe - I hope you enjoy it or at least try to understand my catharsis' method.

Cheers

Marlon/Marlife

Thursday, 12 September 2019

When you get to talk about Marriage/Relationship


I was asked to participate in a project to talk about marriages/relationships. For a few seconds I thought about saying "No" because I don't consider myself an expert in the topic, but then I instantly said to myself "Hang on a second, you have been with the same person for 15 years and married to him for a while, so you might have one or two things to say about marriage/relationship". So I said "Yes". The project will be out quite soon.

As I don't know how the project is going to turn out based on what I genuienly said, I won't say what I exactly said, but I am going to share a few bullet points I took from my own reflection after the interview.

I do believe that in order to be able to love somebody, we must be able to love ourselves. What does this mean? It means to be self-aware of who we are. To accept ourselves as a whole and that includes not "liking" our imperfections.

When we truly love ourselves, we are not jealous of others, we don't envy others because we are so busy with ourselves that there is not time to look outwards, but inwards.

As a result...

We are going to able to love and accept our other half - even with their "imperfections". However, that acceptance should not be in detriment of who we are and how we feel. In other words, if somebody truly loves us, they will elevate us in a healthy way. When I say "healthy" I mean that they will never try to bring you down. EVER.

And this is why...

Chosing our partner speaks volumes of who we are. It says more about us (choice) than the partner themselves. This is why we should be careful when we complain to other people about our choice, that complain is a very poor projection of whowe are when it comes to our choices in life. Instead of complaining, why don't ask ourselves how can we together (as a couple) work this through? It is not easy, it is very challenging indeed but only you know your own relationship.

Which brings me to...

Stop compering your relationship to somebody elses'. We must make our relationship unique, special and relevant. Whatever works for you, works for you. It does not necesarly mean is going to work for somebody else. We should be busy investing in our own relationship rather than paying attention to others'. What is yours is yours so we should make it work if is worth it to do so.

Do not listen....

If as a couple you have an issue and REALLY need advice, do not go to someone who is single, or someone who is divorced or someone who can not sustain a relation or someone who is or has all of the above. If you need advice or need to talk to someone, try to chose wisely who to talk to, maybe talk to a professional, otherwise you are going to feel or end up worse. How can we get advise from someone who has not succeded in something we might be trying to succed to make it work?

Some key elements...

Communication is a massive element: We should be able to tell someone "I don't like that behaviour" or "I don't like what you said", in this way we are pointing out the "behaviour" or what it was "said" not the person because we still love them. Mind you, this one is VERY hard and it is still taking me forever to fully grasp it myself, because it is fucking hard.


Sex...

When it comes to sex, again, this is something that only you to should try to form and agree on. Sex is a very large spectrum that includes whatever you two have decided what it is. We, as a couple, should find whatever works for us, just us. When you have such a healthy view, you will understand that sex (whatever that is) is only one aspect of your relationship, not the relationship in itself. If you find whatever works for you, enjoy it for what it is.

Now it comes the romance...

Love is not perfect, but it is a powerful thing. Love is key to a successful realtionship. We should think of how much we love ourselves, in that way we should know how  able we are to love the person we have choshen as our other half.

If we love ourselves, we will understand love is good. Love keeps us alive. Love is the real reason why we are able to love others.

Cheers to love forever...

Marlon/Marlife







Sunday, 25 August 2019

Affecting your Mental Health: Bullshit or True?



It took me a lot of thinking and a couple of conversations with some people I consider strong, intelligent, open-minded and more importantly not jealous of others, to write this blog. Even though this is my own opinion, I wanted to support it well so I did my research and found some facts. And more importantly, I put all kind of emotions aside not to sound "too personal".

My research has raised in my mind a few questions.

As you might know, in the name of "protecting" your mental health, recently Instagram decided to carry out a test in 7 countries ONLY to hide the amount of likes posts receive. I wonder why is it just a test and also why is it only in 7 countries when according to the World Health Organization, mental health is a world wide problem?





What is the definition of Mental Health?

"It is defined as a stable of well-being in which every individual realizes his or her own potential, can cope with normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to her or his community" WHO

So by knowing the definition we can have a clear idea of what mental illness or disorders are.

If we are not emotionally stable, that instability can be easily triggered regardless the platform we might be on online. When I use the word "triggered" is because the condition already exists.

A study conducted by The Royal Society for Public Health, called #StatusOfMind, has indicated that Instagram is the worst social media platform for young people's mental health. Facebook also is part of the list, and what I find interesting is that Instagram is part of Facebook, so why don't they hide the likes on Facebook too to protect your mental health?

Without trying to be sarcastic, I woudl like to ask this: If we are "concerned" and would like to "help" an alcoholic, would you advise them to drink beer rather than wine, as beer has less alcohol volume? Or would you advice a drug addict to take class B drugs than A?

What might be truth behind it - Business?

According to my research, globally there are 25 million  Instagram business accounts, however, only 2 million are advertising on the platform. This is a very low number in comparison to businesses advertsing on Facebook. So we can argue that the real idea behind "protecting" your mental health can be to encourage small businesses to advertise more.

Let's put it this way, who wants to go to a restaurant that has few likes on Instagram and doesn't sound popular? Or who wants to go to a disco that has cero or very little likes or who wants to click on an ad that has zero likes?

A bigger revelation: Mobile vs Laptops/Desktops

It is not a secret that mobile advertising is massive. We spend more time on our phone than on our laptops/desktops. A recent study found that on average, we spend 3 hours and 15 minutes - if not more - a day on our phones.

Instagram "good intentions" to protect your mental health by hiding the Likes is only on our mobile devices and not on our laptops/desktops - which I find AGAIN very interesting.

As you can see in the below screenshots, I can not see how many likes my latest post received on my mobile, however on my laptop is very visible it has received 27 little hearts (likes).

                                                            On my mobile






On my laptop



Love who you are and appeciate what you have


I consider myself a person who lives life with a very open mind. I am not and will never be negatively affected by the way people conduct themselves in life and this involves social media. However, my open mind tells me that not everybody is like me, and it is totally true. But if I can influence people positively because of the way I am, I am happy to do so.

I am very comfortable in my own skin. I have a very healthy view of who I am and what I have - which is the reason why I am not jealous or envious of other people, at all actually.

There are reasons for people to be who they are, or to look the way they do, or to have what they have, but those reasons do not have to do anything with you.

Do not compare yourself with anybody else. Be your own self. Be authentic and unique by using the space you have on earth. By looking for your real truth inwards not outwards. There is nobody like you, and you should appreciate that.

If you really get affected by how people conduct themselves online, stop, take a moment to think and reflect and ask yourself why, why am I allowing them to make me feel this way? Believe me, the answers might create wonders in you.

Lastly, try to enjoy being on social media regardless the amount of likes you might get. Remember you should value yourself more than having a little heart (like) given on Instagram.

Thank you for reading this post. I hope you enjoyed it the same way I enjoyed writing it.

Marlon/Marlife


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Wednesday, 24 July 2019

My Birthday message

                   


Hey guys,

Every year for my Birthday I give message to try to share joy and good vibes. So here I am sharing my 2019 Birthday message.

What I said came from my heart so I hope you enjoy it.

Cheers to life and to many years to come.

Marlon/Marlife

Monday, 8 July 2019

My Interview with Her.ie





"The way this country embraced me has been pivotal to me as a person."

Marlon Jimenez-Compton is an Advertising Sales and Account Manager with GCN. Originally from Venezuela, he has lived in Dublin for 16 years. He tells Her about coming to Ireland and how life has changed for him since then.
When I was younger, I wanted to change my sexual orientation but after a long process and going to therapy for three years, I ended up changing my mind.
I decided to accept my homosexuality. My therapist and I worked on my self-esteem because I needed to love myself even more and be strong to face the challenges I was going to face for being gay in a society like Venezuela.
Growing up there was quite tough. You feel judged and mocked for being gay and more so if you are a bit effeminate. There was and is an organised gay community but gays are still are very isolated, marginalised and very much on their own.
I arrived in Dublin on 9 June 2003 and it has been one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life. The way this country embraced me has been pivotal to me as a person. Ireland is my house and Dublin is my home.
The gay community was a bit smaller than now but it was amazing to me, considering my circumstances back in Venezuela.
Life for gay people has utterly changed since then - and I have hugely benefited from those changes.  I met my partner John Compton in The George 15 years ago. Back then the idea of same-sex couple getting married seemed like an unrealistic dream. Who would have thought that we as a couple one day were going to have a civil partnership? We did that in July 2011 and then when the same-sex marriage referendum passed, we got married in March 2016.
I feel very lucky to live in a country where gay rights are human rights and human rights are gay rights.
I decided to accept my homosexuality. My therapist and I worked on my self-esteem because I needed to love myself even more and be strong to face the challenges I was going to face for being gay in a society like Venezuela.
Growing up there was quite tough. You feel judged and mocked for being gay and more so if you are a bit effeminate. There was and is an organised gay community but gays are still are very isolated, marginalised and very much on their own.
I arrived in Dublin on 9 June 2003 and it has been one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life. The way this country embraced me has been pivotal to me as a person. Ireland is my house and Dublin is my home.
The gay community was a bit smaller than now but it was amazing to me, considering my circumstances back in Venezuela.
Life for gay people has utterly changed since then - and I have hugely benefited from those changes.  I met my partner John Compton in The George 15 years ago. Back then the idea of same-sex couple getting married seemed like an unrealistic dream. Who would have thought that we as a couple one day were going to have a civil partnership? We did that in July 2011 and then when the same-sex marriage referendum passed, we got married in March 2016.
I feel very lucky to live in a country where gay rights are human rights and human rights are gay rights.
pride
Pride is very important for me. I every year walk the parade and celebrate it in a big way. I celebrate being able to express myself as a gay man and feel liberated. This year’s celebration marks the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, which is a very important milestone in our worldwide community. I love Pride month.
I think we will always need Pride - it is like Christmas time for the queer community. It is the perfect opportunity to take a stand in terms of relevance and commitment. We have a voice which we can use throughout the year and we use it with more power throughout Pride month.
We are now more organised, we have legislations put in place to protect and promote our rights and by all means we should use them but I personally think Pride should remain as a celebration of how far we have come as a community and society.
Thanks to Her.ie for giving me this opportunity.
Marlon/Marlife
We are now more organised, we have legislations put in place to protect and promote our rights and by all means we should use them but I personally think Pride should remain as a celebration of how far we have come as a community and society.


Sunday, 16 June 2019

16 of July, I will be 47...



Hi my beloved people.

This is just a quick message about life.

As I am approaching my 47th Birthday, I keep thinking how privileged I am to have made it this far. I believe every age has its own charm and that's a good reason to embrace every stage of life with dignity, with joy, happiness and love.

I know life has its ups and downs, but if you really pay attention, you will realise that there are  more ups than downs. All we have to do is try hard to see the positive side of every thing in life. Even the misfortunes in we experience can teach us something new something, something meaningful to bring back to life.

I love talking about life and love because I am hoping I can spread positive vibes, good feelings and I would like to think I can be a good influence in someone's life. And love doing so.

To finish, I would like to publicly express my wishes which are: I would like to be healthy to enjoy all those years ahead of me and I am already ready to welcome them. 

I do not intend to stop talking about life and love because when we live and we love and we live.

Cheers to life... 

Marlon/Marlife


Saturday, 25 May 2019

My love for singing & dancing translates my love for life




One of the many reasons I love who I am is because I am able to express myself the way I'd like. Believe me, it is a great feeling of liberation. I encourage you to do the same because it feels REALLY good.

I know I can not sing, jasus I would be delusional If I thought I could, but that does not mean I can not express myself through singing. the same way I do it through dancing : )

So I would like to share this video with you the same way I love sharing my joy with you. 


                        

Marlon/Marlife