Sunday, 28 September 2014

Good Bye Hairdressing Industry...

After obtaining my Irish citizenship, I was officially allowed to work in Ireland. Customer Service was always  my focus, because I love working with and for people. I landed my first job as a Receptionist in a Hair Salon called Essensuals, on South Anne Street, which was part of Tony & Guy Ireland. Essensuals eventually moved from South Ann Street to South Williams street. I think I was there 2 or 3 years.  I met so many great people including the clients  - and so many memories of my fellow co-workers.

From Essensuals I moved to Toni  & Guy Clarendon street where I worked for 3 years. My now good friend, Sharon Mc Donnell, became a franchisee and opened a Salon in Sandymount. She offered the opportunity to work for her and I moved to the Sandymount salon where again I worked for 3 years. While working in Sandymount, I started feeling that a change was needed. I was feeling that I had given to that Industry all I had to, and I was not getting satisfaction from what I was doing, even though I tried my best to keep myself amused.

I started looking for a job, but in the meantime I enrolled myself in 2 courses in Dublin Business School, one in Psychology which I loved and the other one called “Online Marketing & Digital Strategies” which I loved. I was trying to move away from the Hairdressing Industry altogether and I knew it was going to be hard, but I unsuccessfully tried and I got rejections from everywhere. I felt frustrated, but I tried that frustration not to get in the way of my ambitions and aspirations.

An opportunity came up in the Dylan Bradshaw salon. I was quite reluctant to take it, but I decided there would not be harm to give the industry a last shot and after some consideration, I accepted it. I started working in Dylan’s the 1st of November 2012.

Working in the Hairdressing Industry was a good experience I will always treasure kindly. I learnt great things that I will never forget, but more importantly and I am very happy to see that I gained new friends from both clients and co-workers, People that in some ways touched my life and left an indelible mark on me. That’s my main gain and I will be eternally grateful for it.

I am very excited about my new career future. Very excited about my new path in life and I will try my very best to succeed and be an asset to my new company.
Hairdressing industry you have been good to, but it’s time to move on so I’m a little bit sad to say “Good Bye Hairdressing Industry”!


Sunday, 21 September 2014

He said he hated me, but I did not give a FCUK...

I must start this blog by quoting this statement that is like my mantra “The problem it’s not what is out there,
but the way we perceive it”

In one of my jobs in Venezuela I wanted to get up the ladder but I didn’t. A promotion opened up, I applied for it, but I didn’t get it and there was never any reason why. One day I approached the HR manager and I opened my heart to her and I expressed my suspicions. She said she would try to find out the reasons and she did. I was not surprised when she said “Yes, Marlon, the reason Mr X doesn’t want you in that position is because you’re openly gay”, but because she found out off the records I couldn’t do anything about it.

It turns out that Mr X, who was co-owner of the business, was having a secretly gay affair with one of the employees. Even though he thought it was “clandestine”, it was an obvious situation to everybody, it was a big scandal. Anyway, then time passed and someone close to Mr X told me plainly “Marlon he can’t stand you, he hates you.” which I immediately responded “I don’t think he hates me”.  Nobody hates another human being for the sake of it. “I think he hates himself, he hates the fact that I can openly express myself as a gay man and he cannot and he will never be able to do so”  Before I continue, I have to say, this was years ago and that guy who hated me, he’s still hating himself because he still has not come out of the closet, he has to be pitied.

I would like to outline 2 things on this particular story: Jealousy and Projection.

When jealousy invades us, it can be a horrible feeling. A horrible and destructive feeling that could be in detriment of our own psychological and emotional well-being. When we are jealous about someone or something, we are only portraying a discomfort feeling about ourselves, a feeling that deep down is bothering us because we cannot understand why or how that person - who we are jealous of – is the way they are or has whatever they do.  A feeling that makes us aware of we will never be or feel like them, unless we try to approach it in a different, healthy way. The issue is not the person it’s the emotion or feeling we have about them.

A “healthy jealousy” feeling – if such thing exists – is about aspiring to be like a particular person (which is called admiration). Yes, of course we could aspire to be like them, because we admire, respect and acknowledge them, which is fine and that’s good, but when those feelings turn into an internal struggle, or not understanding the issue clearly so it becomes about us not them, we must recognise that “It’s my problem not them. Simple!

Psychological projection “is a theory in psychology in which humans defend themselves against unpleasant impulses by denying their existence in themselves, while attributing them to others” or “it’s a defence mechanism that involves taking our own unacceptable qualities or feelings and ascribing them to other people” For example: An adulterous husband thinking his wife is cheating on him or someone who proclaims hating happy people (They hate themselves because they can not be happy) or When someone is constantly slagging people, trying to put them down. They’re easily projecting their own weak and low self-esteem. That's the only unhealthy pattern they know to feel "OK".

In order to recognise these traits in us, we should try to ask ourselves questions like “Why do I feel like this about that particular person? Why that person’s way of being is bothering me in such way that I must try to find a way to put them down?  Why do we have to compare ourselves to others? In order to get rid of jealousy,  we should try to understand that there’s reasons for people to be the way they are or to have whatever they have or to look the way they do, those reasons do not have to do anything with us as individuals at all. We can see the face, but we do not know the story behind it.

When someone is trying to criticize us, a good way to not allow those critics to affect us, it’s to focus our attention in that person’s own circumstances. For example, someone who is always single or a divorcee pretending to criticise the relationship you’re in. Or someone who gets annoyed with you if you’re late when they’re always late themselves.

Human interactions can be very complex, we have to relate to each other, we have to survive in our everyday life and the only way to have personal and emotional success is by recognising in us those great feelings that make us unique; those feelings that will feed our own self-worth; those feelings in us that make us a valuable and good person. If we try to look inwards to appreciate who we are and have, we will avoid the dangerous trait of comparing ourselves to other, and we will clearly understand that we are unique in very different ways and special for so many particular reasons.

And always – if you can - remember my mantra “It’s not what’s out there, but the way we perceive it”


Saturday, 13 September 2014

She has 4 lips & her name is Vagina...

Due to the relative success of my blogs called “Is it really the BIGGER, the BETTER?” Part 1 & 2, I
decided that it was the girls’ turn and to celebrate in a light and funny way- that special anatomical female area, I came to the conclusion of writing this article.

It can be said that after the brain, the female vagina is the most powerful part of the human body. If you have a brain and a vagina, you have half the battle won in the “war of sexes” because one is a source of intelligence and the other one is not only a source of pleasure, but also has reproductive commitments – which is crucial for the human existence. Don’t forget that our very first holiday into this world was through the vagina canal. How lucky we are!

She has 4 lips (labia), the outer labia which are larger and fattier and the labia minora which consists of 2 layers of skin between or covered by the outer labia. Those lips – which are not Angelina’s – protect the clitoris and the opening of the urethra.  The labia or lips minora is composed of sensory nerves that have erectile tissues which therefore is stimulated during intercourse, they tend to swell and vibrate – like a rabbit dildo - when women are erected or in colloquial jargon – horny.

She is loved by many people: heterosexual men, bisexual men and women also homosexual women
(lesbians), so we can express WOW…she is rather popular.  She is also quite diverse – like a Benetton ad – since the size, shape, length and coloration of the inner labia can extensively vary from woman to woman. That coloration can go from light pink in some women to brownish black in others (hum, it sounds like a vagina with a natural tan).  That could be the reason why women are so unique.

If you are into women, you wouldn’t like to see a woman angry, but you would love to see an angry vagina (horny), she gets swollen and moist which is exactly what she needs to be ready to be entered by her attacker. Also be aware when she is hungry she gets angry too, so you might take advantage of it. She can be bloody – and I’m not referring  to that time of the month,  but to the fact that  when aroused the labia majora swells due to increased blood flow to the area to make her angrier, hungrier, in other words,  hornier. But she is also able to calm down because she is clever, and after an orgasm or when a girl is not sexually stimulated anymore, the labia’s slowly go back to their calm state (unaroused). This whole process of not being angry any more lasts around 1 hour, unless you get her angry again.

Sometimes for whatever reason it may be, we tend to not pay attention to the fact that it’s very important for us humans, male and female, to know our bodies and their amazing anatomical functions they perform. Sometimes or most of the time, we find “vulgar” or even “offensive” to talk about something that it is so part of us. We are too moralistic or too reserved to try to face the fact that we, as humans, are a profound amalgamation of biological components that differentiate us from the Animal Kingdom. It is actually embarrassing to see or realise that animals would have a “better understanding” of how their bodies function.

There is nothing wrong or to be ashamed of, to know our bodies and to talk about it. It is important for many reasons to have a basic understanding of whom and what we are and that includes our bodies. In other words, there is nothing wrong to talk about vaginas.

Vaginas are precious, very precious indeed. Even the beauty industry is concerned about the front house of the vagina. And those concerns have become some real for both – women and men – to the extent that it is important to have a presentable vagina. That’s the reason why we have Brazilian wax, Californian wax, all sorts of waxing’s, even we have the vagisel. It comes with no surprise that now we have the rock vagina, yes there is, when it’s pierced.

When it comes to health, there is hundreds and hundreds of doctors – Gynaecologist- specialised in that area. So this tells us that vaginas have to be very well-looked after.

So girls don’t underestimate what you have between your legs because she is precious. Always remember the many great reason she lives there! Guys next time you have that vagina in front of you, you must make double the effort to appreciate what it offers to you. You should try to understand that she must be looked after well, very well even. If you don’t do a good job, remember she has four lips, she might talk back and put you in an awkward position.

Moral of the story is… Vaginas are precious for different reasons, if you don’t know your friend, you can start now! Get a mirror and have a look or google it! Have a view at those four lips…they might even say hello! And start knowing how and what the Vagina is for?


Sunday, 7 September 2014

"When a wedding dress - Angelina Jolie's - sends a powerful message"

We don’t need to be a psychologist to know that the role a mother plays in their children is crucial, huge and supremely important. However, psychologists have outlined - as a result of their exhausting researches - that the crucial years in our lives are between 0 to 5 years old, strongly insisting that they’re our most powerful formative ones.

Whatever happens when we are children, it’s a big deal because they’re our first learnings, therefore those experiences we are exposed to will certainly shape our lives forever both emotionally and psychologically. A hug when you are scared or just to demonstrate you how much they love you, a kiss to make you feel good or to just simply say “Good night”. They’re simple yet compelling gestures that stay with us forever in a very profound way.

When it comes to a celebrity – like Angelina Jolie is – those moments can get lost in the way or even forgotten because you have such a busy schedule, and work can easily get you distracted and you don’t intentionally mean it, it just happens. It can happen to just “simple, normal” people. You know, between work and the crèche and trying to be a good mum and a good wife and be presentable for your man etc. It just happens. Mothers have too much on their plate. They are the reason why I will always respect and admire them. Just because of that.

Angelina Jolie, either you hate or love her, managed to grow and mature in such a great way that whatever she does, whatever she put her hands on, gets noticed, sends a good message and as a results of it indicates how much power her presence has, she has used that power to help others in so many ways: When she adopted her first son from Cambodia, she brought attention to that country – I bet you some people didn’t even know that country existed. When she decided to give birth in Namibia, she not only brought attention to the Maternity Hospital, but also it has been reported that the tourism in that country increased as a result of it. Her achievements as an Ambassador for the United Nations are outstanding.

 Then she decided to publicly announce she went for a double mastectomy to remove breast cancer cells that could potentially threat her health and as a result her life. So brave and inspiring, in her own words she said “I can tell my children that they will not lose me to breast cancer”

So, as a mother, she has her own worries and concerns, she said she did it for them and she set the message
to every single woman around the world to get tested just to make sure you’re OK.

Then it comes the wedding dress…the powerful message to her own children and even the world…This is why every mummy will relate to that.

As a child, stop there for a second and imagine, what would have gone through your head if your mum is getting married and her wedding dress is covered of the drawings you made when you were a child? My own answer is, IT IS SUPREMELY POWERFUL!

She has been regarded as one the most beautiful women in the world. Of course, not short of fame and fortune. I bet you she could’ve had the best choices in the world. I can only imagine all the big designers keeping their fingers crossed to be selected by her. For some reason she chose Versace, but under her own well-laid-down conditions: “My wedding dress must represent my family, my children and the love I treasure for them” POWERFULL.

For a woman in her position, it was not about the fashion at all, it was about – again – the message she could send out and in this case was her own children. A message that could be described as “You are so important to me that I am carrying your drawings on my wedding dress” or “Do not feel left out, you are so important that you are part of this” or “Mammy loves you so much, that even though I’m getting married, it’s all about you” or “No matter what colour you are or what position you have in the family, there’s no pecking order, your drawing is on my wedding dress” or “you are so important for me/us that you have to have an active participation on my wedding day “. For a child to witness and be part of something rather remarkable like that, something that your mammy decided to do for you - just for you- it is psychologically huge, powerful and very compelling.
Me, coming from a mother who was, in her own way, as emotionally powerful as you are, I totally get and understand what your true and loving intentions were. And I know many women and mothers will totally understand the loving core of your message.

Angie I love you…

Monday, 1 September 2014

Is it really the BIGGER, the BETTER? PART 2

Some myths and facts…

Again, because of our obsession about penis sizes, we tend to think or maybe hope – that a man with big feet, hands or nose is the equivalent of having a big juicy dick, but the reality is that there is absolutely no scientific medical evidence that this is true. There is no correlation between the size of our penis and other part of the bodies. Sorry if you think this is a spoiler for you : (

When it comes to statistics, yes African men come on top and Asian men on bottom, but it has been documented that climate can play a bit part in our penises when it comes to erection. Penises tend to shrink in cold weather, so erect they might reach the double of their potential. However, in hot weather, penises tend to hang low, trying to find release from the suffocation of the hot weather.

There are some studies that suggest that you don’t necessarily have to be black to have a big one, there’s plenty of Caucasian men who are very well-endowed and also some Asians.

In order to have an accurate size of a dick, it should be measured when it’s erect, not when it’s flaccid.

They grow from the age of 5 to 17, so there is a good span for penis’ growth.

The size of our penises does not have anything to do with reproduction. Let’s put it this way, by the 2013 the Asian population was 4.3 billion people. They might be small, but they are very fertile.

While studies and research may vary across reputable sources, the general consensus is that the average in human penis is 5.1”-5.9” inches in length when fully erect.

Some studies has suggested that women, when asked, prefer width more so than length. Remember that the G-spot lady is 3 inches into the vagina channel, so it makes sense.

HUGE fact and HUGE myth, the size of our penis does not have to do anything at all with how good in bed we are. So sex  - which is not necessarily just penetration - can be just as good if you are “small” or “big”

The list of myths and facts goes on and one and one, but let’s put all that bullshit aside and let’s have a more human consideration. I think that what is really more important is who we are as humans and persons. If we are big or small, that does not add any to our treasure as persons. If we are talking about sex or making love, why do we only have to rely on how fabulous are cocks are – small or big. How about using other parts of our bodies that can be a great source of pleasure like tongues and fingers?

When engaging in those intimate moments, why don’t we think more of how we make that person feel in that vulnerable moment very extra special? Very enjoyable sex is a function of intimacy, a connection between 2 people and the many other intangible elements that make sex really meaningful and more rewarding.

As sexual partners our goal should be more in relation to be caring, sharing, good listeners, good talkers and seeing our brains as being the most important sexual organ we should rely on. There is nothing more powerful to provide us with a very powerful erection than love, real love. That’s the best Viagra ever and it
will never fails to make your willie go up : )


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