Trevor & Paul: a love story

Paul and Trevor on their wedding day. Photo by kazooieloki

This story is a living example of how life and love can sometimes work things around for two people to be happy.

Before going any further, I would like to publicly congratulate them on their first wedding anniversary. They got married last year in a lovely ceremony John, my hubby and I had the pleasure to be invited and attended.

Guys we wish you a tsunami of love and happiness today and forever!

Their first encounter was In heaven

Fortuitous encounters can be impactful and have an everlasting effect in our lives, and more so when those encounters have to do with love and happiness.

They first met in the late  1980’s. They both went to Heaven, which is very popular gay club in London where gays go to drink, dance and maybe get lucky. I am sure they didn't go there thinking "tonight I will meet the love of my life". Well that night gay Cupid pointed its first shot into their hearts. They had a great time.

Paul must have a special something which incentivated Trevor to try to stay in touch after that first meeting. He would send him cards and so on. In the meantime, they met each other a couple of times over the years on the gay scene in London, but it was only 'for fun'.

Love knocking on the their door

It was not until August 10th, 2002 when they met again in a bar in Islington and talked about being with each other in a serious relationship.

You can say love is a mystery, and I agree, yes, but when we allow that mysterious feeling enchanting us, a lot of things can happen in the name of love. This is exactly what they did and today they are a happy couple.

They felt they needed to officially legalise their love and union. They started talking about a Civil Partnership for a while. Then marriage became an option when it was legalised and the conversation escalated to getting married instead. So one day Paul just simply phoned up and booked a venue and the marriage registration place and the process of the beautiful wedding took place.

Driven by love

I would like to outline two remarkable aspects of this loving story: 1) When they first, Trevor tried and managed to keep in touch with Paul and they build a connection and 2) Years after, way into their relationship, Paul decided it was time to make arrangements to get married. I think both initiatives are a true testimony of wanting to be with someone.

In Trevor’s own words which I think they are so meaningful, “One thing that helps us get through difficult times is the ability to communicate, understand and appreciate where the other person’s behaviour is coming from and be patient - plus trying not to control the other person.”

Guys John and I salute you and respect you for that great commitment and we truly believe you are a great example for any relationship.

The wedding

As I mentioned in a previous blog 'Our trip to England', I met Trevor online, around 15 years ago, if not more, when I was still in Venezuela. We have stayed in touch. Actually, he is one of the reasons why I chose Ireland as my way out of Venezuela.

When he invited me and John to his wedding, I was moved, I was touched thinking he is a guy who believes in friendship and cultivates it.

They got married last year, July 29th, in a city called Hull where they live, in the North of England, in a lovely ceremony witnessed by family and friends. We were there witnessing every moment, and it felt great to be part of a celebration full of joy and happiness.

We met wonderful people whom with some we are still in touch on Facebook. Including photographers Richard & Christine from Kazooieloki Photography whose work I think is amazing.

Trevor & Paul I would like to finish this post by saying again CONGRATULATIONS on your first wedding anniversary. Thank you for giving us the golden privilege to be part of your celebration. We would like to ask you to always remember you two are a living example of what love is all about: hard work, true commitment, understanding and mutual respect sealed by the name of love.

Wedding pics were taken by international photographers Richard and Christine from http://www.kazooieloki.co.uk/

Richard and Christine you work is amazing. I have visited your website many times and your pictures always take my breath away. Well done guys!

Marlon/Marlife