Some Benefits of Adversity

Before going into my topic, I would like to confess I DO NOT in any way at all regret the things I did or said in relation to the recent events in my life. And if I had to do it or say it again, yes I would do and say exactly the same.

Did I act guided by anger and frustration? Yes, I did. Did I lose the civilized and loving me? Yes, I did, but that is OK because I looked for the lessons, and the number one lesson I learned from that experience is that, at the end of the day, I am only human. And I am very OK with being human.

I also think that sometimes when somebody is hurting, as I was (you have not idea how much I suffered), something is everything and for me in those moments anger was something. So I am very happy to have out my anger to good use because I am very OK with facing the consequences.

The beauty of adversity

When I lost my loving mother, later in life, I found this metaphor which I find beautiful to describe some of the benefits of adversity. Think of this:

What does a beautiful diamond, a beautiful, colorful flower, a shining piece of marble and a very symmetrical statue have in common? They have gone through a very harsh process in order to achieve the enchanting beauty the posses and project. In order to now sustain that well-conditioned state of being, they had to go through a 'painful' process first.

So, if I have been able to manage to live a very happy life without the love of my mother, since I was 11, it is for sure, I will be more than OK to continue facing the calamities in life.

This is the best example I have used to be able to translate what adversity could, in a positive way, represent in people's lives.

Some benefits

Well, what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. This is very true

There is a lot of research in Psychology Today - which is like my bible:

When Adversity Strikes, Optimism Helps Us Get Through

How To Turn Adversity Into Advantage

Adversity and the Creative Mind

and many many more articles.

And remember the next time you are experiencing difficulties in life, don't forget you are just going through the process of becoming a shining diamond.

Thanks for reading.

Marlon/Marlife

We should be grateful for...

Tomorrow Thursday THANKSGIVING is celebrated, and even though it is something we don't particular celebrate, I decided together with my hubby, John, that we should cook (well he will cook) a Turkey to celebrate this day. So we are going to do so.

There are so many things I am grateful for:

I am grateful for...

Having the privilege to still being alive and healthy.

For being happy, no matter what.

For being who I am and for believing in me.

For having a home, not a house, but a home.

For having people in my life who loves me for who I am.

I am grateful for today and tomorrow.

and I am grateful for you taking the time to read this blog.

Happy Thanksgiving Day Everyone

Marlon/Marlife

DO NOT PUT UP WITH BULLSHIT...

I am happy to say I am an emotional person, yes, I am. I am someone who would celebrate good feelings for whatever reason it might be. I am someone who would try to be friendly with everybody.

Those emotions allow me to recognize and address my feelings. They help me to say "Sorry" if I have made a mistake. To say "I love you" if I need to show my love. To express how loyal I am if I am loyal to something or someone.

I don't mind doing all the above because that's part of my compound as a person. So I feel I am not losing anything at all.

HOWEVER...

When it comes to protecting me as a person. When it comes to protecting my feelings, emotions and ultimately my sanity (mental health or sanity), I would do anything and avail anything I can to protect those, this the reason why I DO NOT PUT UP WITH BULLSHIT.

I have learned that in life sometimes we need to separate what is moral from what is legal. Sometimes we need to separate love from law because, sometimes, they do not work well together at all.

I have also learned that depending on the circumstances, I will avail what is best for me, only for me, and I will make decisions based on what is good for ME!

So, DO NOT PUT UP WITH BULLSHIT, always live the life the life that represents the best version of you. If you don't do it, nobody else would do it for you.

Did you hear me? : )

Marlon/Marlife