Wednesday, 24 July 2019
Monday, 8 July 2019
Sunday, 16 June 2019
Hi my beloved people.
This is just a quick message about life.
As I am approaching my 47th Birthday, I keep thinking how privileged I am to have made it this far. I believe every age has its own charm and that's a good reason to embrace every stage of life with dignity, with joy, happiness and love.
I know life has its ups and downs, but if you really pay attention, you will realise that there are more ups than downs. All we have to do is try hard to see the positive side of every thing in life. Even the misfortunes in we experience can teach us something new something, something meaningful to bring back to life.
I love talking about life and love because I am hoping I can spread positive vibes, good feelings and I would like to think I can be a good influence in someone's life. And love doing so.
To finish, I would like to publicly express my wishes which are: I would like to be healthy to enjoy all those years ahead of me and I am already ready to welcome them.
I do not intend to stop talking about life and love because when we live and we love and we live.
Cheers to life...
Saturday, 25 May 2019
One of the many reasons I love who I am is because I am able to express myself the way I'd like. Believe me, it is a great feeling of liberation. I encourage you to do the same because it feels REALLY good.
I know I can not sing, jasus I would be delusional If I thought I could, but that does not mean I can not express myself through singing. the same way I do it through dancing : )
So I would like to share this video with you the same way I love sharing my joy with you.
Sunday, 28 April 2019
Due to the good reaction my previous blog received which was My mother-in-law Chicken Mozzarella recipe, I am now sharing this recipe Marlon's chicken which is delicious.
First of all, the chicken has to be cut between the joints so that you can get make the most of each individual piece: Legs, breast etc.
In a pestle and mortar you will crush garlic together with rosemary herbs. Once that's done, you will cover the chicken pieces with it.
Other ingredients are: Soya sauce, coriander, ground turmeric and oregano.
You could leave the seasoning on overnight so that the chicken will absorb the flavours.
For the cooking, you will put the dish in the oven for around 45 minutes or more depending on how well-cooked you'd like it to be.
As you can see, it is very simple, very tasty and it is just gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous.
Let me know how you get on.
Tuesday, 16 April 2019
As promised, here I am sharing the recipe of the Chicken mozzarella dish which I was given to me by my Mother-in-law.
It is very simple and very delicious, all you need is:
Boneless chicken breasts (Obviously depending on the amount of people you're cooking for. I used 4 breasts for me and my hubby)
Mozzarella cheese (I used two small bags of it)
Spinach (I used the full bag we got) and
Whole cherry tomato & Parmesan pasta sauce
How to make it
Marinate the chicken breasts. I used Soya sauce, garlic, oregano and ground turmeric
Once they are marinated, you put them in a baking dish. Cover the breasts with the whole cherry tomato sauce, then the spinach and lastly the mozzarella. I used some of the mozzarella juice, but this totally down to you.
Put it in the oven for 45 minutes at a 180C heat.
Very very simple, but you will have a very delicious dish. I can not wait to make it again because it was gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous
Monday, 8 April 2019
I would like to share with #marlife's audience this song 'You won't stop', written and sang by Ruby O'kelly, a very talented girl who has used her incredible talents to shine a light on an issue that affects many many young people around the world: Bullying.
As such a young age, Ruby is 12, she wrote based on the reality she has witnessed. In her own words, she stated that...
"so many girls and boys my age struggling with their own mental health , struggling with every day life , things that should be simple and enjoyable like going to school . One night i begun to write these lyrics , then i added the music and created my first ever song . Im so proud of it but also proud of the important message in it .
You never know what someone is going through , be kind always"
I invite you to listen to the song and pay attention to compelling message this wonderful girl conveys through the lyrics. I am sure you know someone, or you could be someone, affected by this issue.
Ruby I salute you and I encourage you to continue to be an example for so many people.
Well done and I can not way to hear more from you!
Wednesday, 13 March 2019
We should not underestimate the power of social media.
Social media, weather we like it or not, is another way of communication. It is another way to be and stay connected, this reason on its own has power, and that power should not be down-played. I don't, anyway.
And there are plenty of reasons to try to make of social media channels a way to create and propagate goodness:
Social media has helped to solve crimes, the same way it has pissed us off because somebody "did or said" something that according to us "they should have not."
It can be frivolous as it can be very serious. It can be grim as it can be fabulous. It is totally up to us.
Through social media, we have found out when our favourite programs are on, or when our favourite restaurant is displaying a new menu, or where that girl bought that super nice dress; or where my pal got that nice shirt I like and would like to get one, too.
Social media allows us to talk about simple and silly things like our last selfie and very serious things like when the fuck is the UK leaving the EU? hehehe
Do not get me wrong, yes, it has a dark side, but so do have many things in life. And we do not give up life, or at least, most of us, appreciate life for what it is.
So, this opens the question, is social media the issue or the way we use it?
Social media is powerful and let's use that power for whatever you think it should be used, and more so if you use it for great purposes, whatever that purpose might be for you.
I love social media. I have done great things through SM. And I am one of those who will never say 'Facebook is very bad' on Facebook 😉
Friday, 8 March 2019
This happened very recently.
I had to ring the bank to report a lost card belonged to my husband.
I spoke to three different women, but the conversation with one of them turned from asking security questions to her making a genuine comment that melted my heart.
When I rang I said 'I need to report an item I lost belonged to my husband'
She said: "OK, I need to ask you a few questions, about your husband, for security reasons".
I said "Yes, go on". So she proceeded to ask me the standard questions like: Date of birth, mobile number, and other questions for "security reasons". I answered every question accordingly and she said: "Marlon you need to get John, your husband, to ring and order a new item".
I said "OK, no problem, I will do that", but for some reason I thought "Was she trying to make sure I had a husband" even though I know they are security questions. So I thought out-loud.
"Oh my god, thank god I knew all those answers, otherwise I would have not forgotten myself, after 15 years together".
And she goes "Have you been together for 15 years? WOW fair play to you guys. I am nearly 50 and still looking for love" so I said "What about being in love with yourself?" and she laughed.
My heart melted AWWWWW BLESS
It was one of those moments of realisation and gratitude I was unexpectedly in. It is important to appreciate what I have, and my hubby is my number one appreciation together with Sammy and our eleven fish 😍
Life is good and wonderful...
Thursday, 28 February 2019
Even though the banner I have used for this blog can be perceived as funny, this topic for me is not funny at all. And I am sure it is not funny for a lot of people.
I find really hard to accept with have to die and, to be totally honest, I am very terrified by the reality that one day we have to die. I keep wonder why? why? why? But it is hard to find an answer, at least for me.
My beloved mother passed away when I was 11 so, yes, I am HUGELY affected by death, hugely. When you are a happy little boy, like I was, and your mother suddenly dies, that is a very sad, painful, hard reality and that happened to me. So yes, I still cry her death even though I am now 46 : (
Now in adulthood, I have gone through the pain again and again as some beloved ones have passed away in the last 3 years or so. Now more recently, being confronted by the death of a beloved, good friend, Alli Macdonnell, I am still devastated, broken inside, really, and trying to fathom something I was not, we were not, expecting at all.
This blog is inspired by her very tragic passing. I can not understand why? why? why? So so many unanswered questions.
When I said the last "Good bye" to her, I travelled back to when I had to say "Good bye" for the last time to my own mother, and it was very very sad. Since then, I can not stop thinking about mortality. I am here struggling with the idea, or the fact, that one day we have to die.
Death sucks, Mortality sucks and I am not ready for it.
With a broken heart...
Wednesday, 20 February 2019
This photo has gone viral. When I first saw it, I nearly cried thinking "what a moment, those children are enjoying an internal joy pretending they are taking a selfie with a sleeper."
Then when I kept looking at it, I realised there are so many beautiful messages encrypted in this very tender, powerful moment. I come from poverty so I know what I am talking about, and I have a few lessons or messages to share.
When we are poor and don't have resources, we make every little resource available a source to try to find joy.
We tend to rely more on hugs and kisses because we don't have fancy material things
We believe that happiness is not what is out there, but the way we perceive it, so even a simple smile can look like the biggest gift ever.
We tend to appreciate more the very little we have, because most of the time it is so difficult to obtain it. So when we get it, we just truly love it.
And like in the photo, those children have in their face that sincere smile of joy created by something it is only in their imagination.
For us all, we should appreciate who we are and what we have because life, even if we live a simple one, is still full of joy.
Let's live, love and laugh.
Tuesday, 29 January 2019
As you might have notice on my social media, I am always spreading positive vibes, optimism, motivation and funny stuff in the name of love. I am always curious about finding information related to psychology, human development, etc.
Basically, I am always trying to find information that would help me become a better person. And if a piece that piece of info in worth share it, I would share it on my Facebook and/or Instagram @marlife. Some of them get good reaction, some of them, don't, but still I believe sharing is caring.
Recently, on Facebook, by chance, I came across with a page called the 'Power of Positivity' and I am in love with the page. Their mission is "to plant, nurture, and grow positive energy in the hearts and minds of everyone, allowing them to create a better life and a more beautiful planet in alignment with the highest good".
Needless to say I am in love with their mission and, in a way, a feel a sense of recognition.
I have been sharing some of their psychological and motivational quotes on my Facebook.
If you are into this kind of content, I encourage you to follow this page and its website www.powerofpositivity.com - and you will love it.
To finish, the reason I am sharing this is because I believe that sharing is caring.
Monday, 14 January 2019
I find fascinating and very impressive that within half an hour job interview, the interviewer says/asks 'Where do you get your resilience from?". Mind you, this is the first time in my life I speak to this person, and for them to have that sense about me, it is very impressive.
Obviously I told them that I got it from having to live life without my Mother who I lost when I was 11 - which is totally true. As sad as it is, I have always tried to live life with a positive outlook.
When the interview was over, I went online and research the term a little bit more, and found the definition by the American Psychological Association:
"Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors. It means "bouncing back" from difficult experiences.
Research has shown that resilience is ordinary, not extraordinary. People commonly demonstrate resilience. One example is the response of many Americans to the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks and individuals' efforts to rebuild their lives.
Being resilient does not mean that a person doesn't experience difficulty or distress. Emotional pain and sadness are common in people who have suffered major adversity or trauma in their lives. In fact, the road to resilience is likely to involve considerable emotional distress.
Resilience is not a trait that people either have or do not have. It involves behaviors, thoughts and actions that can be learned and developed in anyone."
I am still reflecting on the interview. I have also been thinking about life and about those calamities I have endured in my life, some more painful than others, but have helped me to shape the person I am today.
We'll see what happens. I am a very optimistic person, and I always try to find the lessons in every situation I am in because the lessons are always there.
Tuesday, 8 January 2019
Even though I don't do New Year's resolutions, every year I set up myself the objective of trying to be a better person. In January, I usually reflect on the year before and I try to learn from the mistakes I made, and I always look for the lessons because the lessons are always there.
I think learning from our mistakes is pivotal if we'd like to become better as a person.
This feeling or desire of wanting to be a better person is getting stronger and bigger as I am getting older. I guess is part of trying to age gracefully both psychologically and spiritually. And I have to say, it is a great feeling.
This year, I also integrated to my goal of becoming better, to learn more, to read more and to be more curious about knowing new things, exploring new things. As part of all this, I have decided to improve my spoken English. I would like to be able to have a better pronunciation in English. I know I have a strong accent - which is OK, but my elocution is something I have started to work on.
I have set up some exercises for this purpose. The below clip shows how my practice is helping me. I know I have a very long and endless road to travel, however, I am enjoying so much the start of this journey.
I believe we can achieve everything we want in life. I believe we can become better at whatever we would like to be better at. The first step is wanting it, once that desire is in us, we do have the power in our hands to do everything we can to achieve our goals - which is very rewarding.
We have the power to be better if we want to!
I am on that journey and I am happy to share it with you and the rest of the world. Thank you for allowing me to do so.