Sunday, 24 November 2019

Happiness is my panacea.


There are a few one very important lessons I have learnt in life for being are a very happy person:

1) We will never understand who or what we are not. For example, if we are unhappy we will find very difficult to understand and process that someone can be truly happy.

2) When you are truly happy some people might not like you because they are not what you are: A happy person.

3) When you are truly happy, you don't compare your life to others'. You live your life and celebrate the life of others because you are not envious or jealous or who they are and what they have.

4) When you are truly happy you talk about it all the time because you want to share this wonderful feeling with others to try, if possible, to affect others in a positive way.

5) Paradoxically, when you are truly happy you can be annoying to people and some might not even like because of who you are. But you are happy so that's OK.

When we are happy we get to be asked questions like the one below which - by the way - I am very happy to answer

To her question “Are you always this happy?” Me: “Yes I am because the worst thing that could ever happen to someone already happened to me, and it’s that my mother died when I was 11 so what else can happen that I won’t be able to survive?”๐Ÿ‘
And this is the message I have from that question: when we are genuinely happy, we open up to the world. We reveal who we are because we are so content within ourselves that we see the world as a platform to spread great feelings.
We don’t become a recluse. We don’t see people or our surroundings or the world as a source of annoyance because deep inside we are ok with ourselves.
Life is too short to be spending it feeling miserable with ourselves and then projecting that feeling into the world.
So yes, I rather chose to have a spoon of cheerfulness than shitfulness because no matter what, life is goooood ❤️ so cheers to life and to the great feelings within us ๐Ÿ‘ 

Sunday, 17 November 2019

Memories from Toni&Guy


The beautiful thing about memories is that they reimind us how things from the past were. When those memories are good or happy, sometimes we are embraced by a sense of nostalgia - which is nice.

I worked for Toni&Guy Ireland for nearly 7 years. I started in Essensuals on South Anne Street which eventually moved to South Williams Street. Essensuals was part of Toni&Guy. Then I moved to Toni&Guy Clarendon street and from there I moved to Toni&Guy Sandymount. Both essensuals and T&G Sandymount don't exist anynmore.

Honestly, I don't miss the job or the company, however I do miss some people and I do miss some clients too.

I built up good relationships with some staff members. People who I established a great connection with, with some of them even a frienship. People who I had great conversations with; great banter and great interactions with. Yes I do miss that and same way I do miss them.

I also miss some clients. I established a good relationship with some clients. Relationships I have good memories about and I still sometimes think about - for all the good reasons.

It is amazing how people from work become part of our lives. I particularly love it because I love working with and for people.

I am someone who is always tryign to find the way  to have a good interaction with the people I spend time with, because I think it is important. That's why I keep positive so that I can be a good influence on them. I try to be humorous. Life is too short to be so serious all the time. In other words, I try to find ways to get on with the people I surrounded by.

In some ways I think it has paId off because I was once awarded a Champagne award in recognition of Having the MOST sparkling personality. And oh boy I loved my prize because, in a way, I was a prize I received for just being true to who I am and project that my every day human interactions which, of course, includes work.

I take this opportunity to send a BIG MASSIVE hello to everybody in Toni&Guy Ireland. I miss you guys. I really do. I won't mention names because you know who you are.

I send you my love full of nostalgia.

Marlon/Marlife

Monday, 28 October 2019

My Opinion on Greta Thunberg



This is one those instances where I thought about and gave some consideration to what I have to say. In order to have a well-informed opinion, I did some research. I also spoke to a couple people who I consider quite well-informed and liberated from their own insecurities. I even did some internal reflection in order to have a more or less depurated opinion from my own bias. Basically, I am trying to embrace the topic with an open mind.

Greta Thunberg

I don't need to say who she is or where she is from or what she stands for. Because she has received so much coverage - both off and online - to the extend that she has become a phenomenon whether we like it or not.

Of course, I have followed her movement. She has been able to inspire and motivate people  to be mindful and conscious about the planet: Our global home. Her message has been so crucial to the extent that "Across the world, millions gather biggest climate protest ever".

She has been the front page of multiple newspapers. She has inspired young and not so young. She has created a momentum that seems to still be alive and will be alive for a long long time. She is inspiring the young generation to start making a change.

It is very important to outline that the cause Greta represents "Global Climate Change" has been scientifically proven. You can visit https://climate.nasa.gov/evidence/ for more rigorous information. This is not something she "invented" for the sake of it to attract attention. It is a real problem and part of the agenda of most countries around the world.

Greta presented her concerns to the United Nations. In a powerful speech, she told dignitaries "You have stolen my dreams and my childhood". History will remember her for this statement.

We can firmly say she has science on her side. She has David Attenborough backing her "Outrage is justified".

As we can see, Greta Thunberg, a such a young age, has achieved a lot, in the name of protecting the planet. I applaud and repect her for what she represents and stands for. However, I must mention she has also achieved triggering in some people hate, rancour, resentment and bullying traits which are alarming signals of not having emotional intelligence whatsoever at all.

Before I continue, I must share this reflection with you...

The day I realise a child (or an adult - some people argue that she is not a child because she is 16) ignites in me a feeling of discomfort, or dislike, or hate, or rancour, or resentment, that very same day I will realise I am not an emotional intelligent person at all. Why? Because if we are very self-aware of who we are; if you we have a very healthy self-esteem, nobody - not even someone who is 16 - will ever awaken in us unwanted feelings. Feelings that say more about us than the person who has triggered them in us.

Our own childhood or our own experiences growing up

There are a couple of questions we should ask ourselves when it comes to holding incandescent rage towards a child or a person in general.

Should we despise Greta, the person, or what she represents, the cause? This is if we are in denial of climate change.

Because of  her worldwide outreach, is Greta reminding us how limited our childhood was when expressing ourselves due to having parents who would truncate in us our desires to express our dreams, concerns and most trivial wants?

Why do we have to see  her as an adult in order to make space for our resentful feelings?

Are we jealous of her incredible achievements even though she has been diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome? And we with our full faculties are caught up in our own walling?

Is Greta making us easy to "hate" or "dislike" her as a way of projecting the dislike we hold for ourselves?

Is she reminding us all that if we are unable to separate the person from the cause, we are just revealing how unable we are to separate what we like and don't like about ourselves, and concentrate on what we like about us in order to keep going?

The questions are endless, but this is the one we should seriously ask ourselves...Why, why is somebody making us feel like that? Why? Look deep inside you, and you will find the answer. And remember, whatever the answer might be, the world will never be a safe place if you are riddled and conducted by your own insecurities.

It is not what is our there, but the way we perceive it...

Thanks for reading...

Marlon/Marlife





Sunday, 20 October 2019

I am grateful & feel blessed


Due to the reaction this post received on my Facebook, I have to reshare it with my #marlife's audience : )

It was Sunday morning and I was wide awake so I got inspired and wrote:

Here I am wide awake and reflecting on how blessed and grateful I am. I am grateful to have made it this far in life and I am healthy.
I am blessed to have the love of my life: John who I am still blissfully in love with. When I am in work I can’t wait to get home to him. We have a roof over our head and food on our table and wine, too. We have and love Sammy.
I feel grateful when people show me love and express how I have positively affected them.
Ironically, I am also grateful to know some people don’t like me because it makes me realise I don’t rely on their appreciation to be a happy person, at all actually.
More importantly, I am very blessed to have the Mother I had who adored me dearly. She is the reason why I am such a wonderful person.
So yes, I am grateful and a very blessed human being. Happy Sunday everyone : )

Marlon/Marlife

Marlon/Marlife


Sunday, 6 October 2019

The Story Of Us published on GCN



Making a marriage work takes work. A relationship is also a partnership -  the beginning of thinking of yourselves as a member of a team team, not two separate individuals. Two long term married couples reveal to /Peter Dunne/ that, like anything else, the more you put into a marriage, the more you get back.
Photos provided by the couples. 

For Marlon Jimenez-Compton (he jokes by pronouncing the ‘double barrel’ as he says his second names) the love of a good dance almost got in the way of the love of a good man.
15 years ago in 2004, on a night out with friends, Marlon spotted John Compton across the dance floor in The George. There were immediate sparks. Not shy in the slightest, Marlon made a beeline for John and the pair got to chatting. Proving to be no shrinking violet himself, John asked if Marlon would like to leave with him. “And I said ‘no’ because I wanted to dance.

 So I went back to my friends, and my friends asked me ‘what happened?! Why did you walk away from him!? And I said, ‘he’s going home. And I want to dance.’”
That was almost that, but about a month later, the pair spotted each other on the online dating site Gaydar. They continued chatting, until, as Marlon shared, “On July 15, he invited me to his house for dinner.” Marlon remembers the date clearly, as “the next day was my birthday, July 16.” Clearly the dinner went well, as Marlon followed, “So now we celebrate both my birthday and our wedding anniversary, because we celebrated our civil partnership on July 15, 2011.”

Anyone who ever meets Marlon will learn two things very quickly – firstly how much he absolutely adores his husband John, and secondly, he really //really// believes being married is the best thing ever. Suffice to say, it was no shock when Marlon revealed it was him who had popped the question. They were in a restaurant called The Angler's Rest in Strawberry Beds. It had just been refurbished and John commented it would be a great spot for a wedding. Marlon replied, “so why don't we get married?” 
This was in the month of November. When civil partnership became available in January the following year, the couple where quick to take advantage, celebrating their ceremony that July. That wasn't the end though. When the equal marriage referendum made grรก the law, the couple once again made their vows to each other.

So why is marriage so important to them?

Being practical for a moment, Marlon lists the important legal rights that come with being married, but follows “When we actually got married, I felt that there was a rebirth of the love. I felt a sense that we actually belong to each other now.” 

Marlon stresses something he believes is necessary before someone considers marriage - “You have to love yourself first. I know it's a clichรฉ, but if you are unable to love yourself, you will not be able to love anybody else. Also, maintain your independence – not in a selfish way, but in the way that you have to be self aware – you are your own person, your partner is their own person. If you have that in mind you will be able to separate yourself from situations that you need to separate yourself from.”

So, is there one universal secret to a successful marriage? “Every marriage is different. Whatever is working in our marriage won't necessarily work in somebody else's marriage. Trust is important. Love. Respect. Communication is huge, in a marriage or even in any relationship.” 

Marlon offers the heartfelt advice - “Do not compare your union with somebody else's. Your union is yours. Enjoy how special it is. Enjoy how unique it is.”
15 years together obviously means 15 anniversaries. Is there any one in particular that stood out? “I think the fifth year was important. I remember going out to dinner and it struck me 'Wow, we made it this far.'” 

“We married twice. And here we are, 15 years later, we have a house, a dog and 11 fish.” 
The couple share a terrific sense of humour, and to anyone who sees them it is clear they truly enjoy each other’s company. Best of all, Marlon didn’t make have to make a choice - after all these years together, there’s still a lot of dancing, although most of it takes place in the kitchen rather than The George. 

Thank you to Peter Dunne, our editor, for such a great piece. 

Marlon/Marlife

Tuesday, 17 September 2019

Marlon’s catharsis over Trump

                          




Hey guys,

I am one of those who believes that when they feel something is bothering them, they must try to find the way to release those negative feelings.

So this video is my way to get rid of the negative feelings Donald Trump ignates in me hehehe - I hope you enjoy it or at least try to understand my catharsis' method.

Cheers

Marlon/Marlife

Thursday, 12 September 2019

When you get to talk about Marriage/Relationship


I was asked to participate in a project to talk about marriages/relationships. For a few seconds I thought about saying "No" because I don't consider myself an expert in the topic, but then I instantly said to myself "Hang on a second, you have been with the same person for 15 years and married to him for a while, so you might have one or two things to say about marriage/relationship". So I said "Yes". The project will be out quite soon.

As I don't know how the project is going to turn out based on what I genuienly said, I won't say what I exactly said, but I am going to share a few bullet points I took from my own reflection after the interview.

I do believe that in order to be able to love somebody, we must be able to love ourselves. What does this mean? It means to be self-aware of who we are. To accept ourselves as a whole and that includes not "liking" our imperfections.

When we truly love ourselves, we are not jealous of others, we don't envy others because we are so busy with ourselves that there is not time to look outwards, but inwards.

As a result...

We are going to able to love and accept our other half - even with their "imperfections". However, that acceptance should not be in detriment of who we are and how we feel. In other words, if somebody truly loves us, they will elevate us in a healthy way. When I say "healthy" I mean that they will never try to bring you down. EVER.

And this is why...

Chosing our partner speaks volumes of who we are. It says more about us (choice) than the partner themselves. This is why we should be careful when we complain to other people about our choice, that complain is a very poor projection of whowe are when it comes to our choices in life. Instead of complaining, why don't ask ourselves how can we together (as a couple) work this through? It is not easy, it is very challenging indeed but only you know your own relationship.

Which brings me to...

Stop compering your relationship to somebody elses'. We must make our relationship unique, special and relevant. Whatever works for you, works for you. It does not necesarly mean is going to work for somebody else. We should be busy investing in our own relationship rather than paying attention to others'. What is yours is yours so we should make it work if is worth it to do so.

Do not listen....

If as a couple you have an issue and REALLY need advice, do not go to someone who is single, or someone who is divorced or someone who can not sustain a relation or someone who is or has all of the above. If you need advice or need to talk to someone, try to chose wisely who to talk to, maybe talk to a professional, otherwise you are going to feel or end up worse. How can we get advise from someone who has not succeded in something we might be trying to succed to make it work?

Some key elements...

Communication is a massive element: We should be able to tell someone "I don't like that behaviour" or "I don't like what you said", in this way we are pointing out the "behaviour" or what it was "said" not the person because we still love them. Mind you, this one is VERY hard and it is still taking me forever to fully grasp it myself, because it is fucking hard.


Sex...

When it comes to sex, again, this is something that only you to should try to form and agree on. Sex is a very large spectrum that includes whatever you two have decided what it is. We, as a couple, should find whatever works for us, just us. When you have such a healthy view, you will understand that sex (whatever that is) is only one aspect of your relationship, not the relationship in itself. If you find whatever works for you, enjoy it for what it is.

Now it comes the romance...

Love is not perfect, but it is a powerful thing. Love is key to a successful realtionship. We should think of how much we love ourselves, in that way we should know how  able we are to love the person we have choshen as our other half.

If we love ourselves, we will understand love is good. Love keeps us alive. Love is the real reason why we are able to love others.

Cheers to love forever...

Marlon/Marlife







Sunday, 25 August 2019

Affecting your Mental Health: Bullshit or True?



It took me a lot of thinking and a couple of conversations with some people I consider strong, intelligent, open-minded and more importantly not jealous of others, to write this blog. Even though this is my own opinion, I wanted to support it well so I did my research and found some facts. And more importantly, I put all kind of emotions aside not to sound "too personal".

My research has raised in my mind a few questions.

As you might know, in the name of "protecting" your mental health, recently Instagram decided to carry out a test in 7 countries ONLY to hide the amount of likes posts receive. I wonder why is it just a test and also why is it only in 7 countries when according to the World Health Organization, mental health is a world wide problem?





What is the definition of Mental Health?

"It is defined as a stable of well-being in which every individual realizes his or her own potential, can cope with normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to her or his community" WHO

So by knowing the definition we can have a clear idea of what mental illness or disorders are.

If we are not emotionally stable, that instability can be easily triggered regardless the platform we might be on online. When I use the word "triggered" is because the condition already exists.

A study conducted by The Royal Society for Public Health, called #StatusOfMind, has indicated that Instagram is the worst social media platform for young people's mental health. Facebook also is part of the list, and what I find interesting is that Instagram is part of Facebook, so why don't they hide the likes on Facebook too to protect your mental health?

Without trying to be sarcastic, I woudl like to ask this: If we are "concerned" and would like to "help" an alcoholic, would you advise them to drink beer rather than wine, as beer has less alcohol volume? Or would you advice a drug addict to take class B drugs than A?

What might be truth behind it - Business?

According to my research, globally there are 25 million  Instagram business accounts, however, only 2 million are advertising on the platform. This is a very low number in comparison to businesses advertsing on Facebook. So we can argue that the real idea behind "protecting" your mental health can be to encourage small businesses to advertise more.

Let's put it this way, who wants to go to a restaurant that has few likes on Instagram and doesn't sound popular? Or who wants to go to a disco that has cero or very little likes or who wants to click on an ad that has zero likes?

A bigger revelation: Mobile vs Laptops/Desktops

It is not a secret that mobile advertising is massive. We spend more time on our phone than on our laptops/desktops. A recent study found that on average, we spend 3 hours and 15 minutes - if not more - a day on our phones.

Instagram "good intentions" to protect your mental health by hiding the Likes is only on our mobile devices and not on our laptops/desktops - which I find AGAIN very interesting.

As you can see in the below screenshots, I can not see how many likes my latest post received on my mobile, however on my laptop is very visible it has received 27 little hearts (likes).

                                                            On my mobile






On my laptop



Love who you are and appeciate what you have


I consider myself a person who lives life with a very open mind. I am not and will never be negatively affected by the way people conduct themselves in life and this involves social media. However, my open mind tells me that not everybody is like me, and it is totally true. But if I can influence people positively because of the way I am, I am happy to do so.

I am very comfortable in my own skin. I have a very healthy view of who I am and what I have - which is the reason why I am not jealous or envious of other people, at all actually.

There are reasons for people to be who they are, or to look the way they do, or to have what they have, but those reasons do not have to do anything with you.

Do not compare yourself with anybody else. Be your own self. Be authentic and unique by using the space you have on earth. By looking for your real truth inwards not outwards. There is nobody like you, and you should appreciate that.

If you really get affected by how people conduct themselves online, stop, take a moment to think and reflect and ask yourself why, why am I allowing them to make me feel this way? Believe me, the answers might create wonders in you.

Lastly, try to enjoy being on social media regardless the amount of likes you might get. Remember you should value yourself more than having a little heart (like) given on Instagram.

Thank you for reading this post. I hope you enjoyed it the same way I enjoyed writing it.

Marlon/Marlife


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Wednesday, 24 July 2019

My Birthday message

                   


Hey guys,

Every year for my Birthday I give message to try to share joy and good vibes. So here I am sharing my 2019 Birthday message.

What I said came from my heart so I hope you enjoy it.

Cheers to life and to many years to come.

Marlon/Marlife

Monday, 8 July 2019

My Interview with Her.ie





"The way this country embraced me has been pivotal to me as a person."

Marlon Jimenez-Compton is an Advertising Sales and Account Manager with GCN. Originally from Venezuela, he has lived in Dublin for 16 years. He tells Her about coming to Ireland and how life has changed for him since then.
When I was younger, I wanted to change my sexual orientation but after a long process and going to therapy for three years, I ended up changing my mind.
I decided to accept my homosexuality. My therapist and I worked on my self-esteem because I needed to love myself even more and be strong to face the challenges I was going to face for being gay in a society like Venezuela.
Growing up there was quite tough. You feel judged and mocked for being gay and more so if you are a bit effeminate. There was and is an organised gay community but gays are still are very isolated, marginalised and very much on their own.
I arrived in Dublin on 9 June 2003 and it has been one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life. The way this country embraced me has been pivotal to me as a person. Ireland is my house and Dublin is my home.
The gay community was a bit smaller than now but it was amazing to me, considering my circumstances back in Venezuela.
Life for gay people has utterly changed since then - and I have hugely benefited from those changes.  I met my partner John Compton in The George 15 years ago. Back then the idea of same-sex couple getting married seemed like an unrealistic dream. Who would have thought that we as a couple one day were going to have a civil partnership? We did that in July 2011 and then when the same-sex marriage referendum passed, we got married in March 2016.
I feel very lucky to live in a country where gay rights are human rights and human rights are gay rights.
I decided to accept my homosexuality. My therapist and I worked on my self-esteem because I needed to love myself even more and be strong to face the challenges I was going to face for being gay in a society like Venezuela.
Growing up there was quite tough. You feel judged and mocked for being gay and more so if you are a bit effeminate. There was and is an organised gay community but gays are still are very isolated, marginalised and very much on their own.
I arrived in Dublin on 9 June 2003 and it has been one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life. The way this country embraced me has been pivotal to me as a person. Ireland is my house and Dublin is my home.
The gay community was a bit smaller than now but it was amazing to me, considering my circumstances back in Venezuela.
Life for gay people has utterly changed since then - and I have hugely benefited from those changes.  I met my partner John Compton in The George 15 years ago. Back then the idea of same-sex couple getting married seemed like an unrealistic dream. Who would have thought that we as a couple one day were going to have a civil partnership? We did that in July 2011 and then when the same-sex marriage referendum passed, we got married in March 2016.
I feel very lucky to live in a country where gay rights are human rights and human rights are gay rights.
pride
Pride is very important for me. I every year walk the parade and celebrate it in a big way. I celebrate being able to express myself as a gay man and feel liberated. This year’s celebration marks the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, which is a very important milestone in our worldwide community. I love Pride month.
I think we will always need Pride - it is like Christmas time for the queer community. It is the perfect opportunity to take a stand in terms of relevance and commitment. We have a voice which we can use throughout the year and we use it with more power throughout Pride month.
We are now more organised, we have legislations put in place to protect and promote our rights and by all means we should use them but I personally think Pride should remain as a celebration of how far we have come as a community and society.
Thanks to Her.ie for giving me this opportunity.
Marlon/Marlife
We are now more organised, we have legislations put in place to protect and promote our rights and by all means we should use them but I personally think Pride should remain as a celebration of how far we have come as a community and society.


Sunday, 16 June 2019

16 of July, I will be 47...



Hi my beloved people.

This is just a quick message about life.

As I am approaching my 47th Birthday, I keep thinking how privileged I am to have made it this far. I believe every age has its own charm and that's a good reason to embrace every stage of life with dignity, with joy, happiness and love.

I know life has its ups and downs, but if you really pay attention, you will realise that there are  more ups than downs. All we have to do is try hard to see the positive side of every thing in life. Even the misfortunes in we experience can teach us something new something, something meaningful to bring back to life.

I love talking about life and love because I am hoping I can spread positive vibes, good feelings and I would like to think I can be a good influence in someone's life. And love doing so.

To finish, I would like to publicly express my wishes which are: I would like to be healthy to enjoy all those years ahead of me and I am already ready to welcome them. 

I do not intend to stop talking about life and love because when we live and we love and we live.

Cheers to life... 

Marlon/Marlife


Saturday, 25 May 2019

My love for singing & dancing translates my love for life




One of the many reasons I love who I am is because I am able to express myself the way I'd like. Believe me, it is a great feeling of liberation. I encourage you to do the same because it feels REALLY good.

I know I can not sing, jasus I would be delusional If I thought I could, but that does not mean I can not express myself through singing. the same way I do it through dancing : )

So I would like to share this video with you the same way I love sharing my joy with you. 


                        

Marlon/Marlife











Sunday, 28 April 2019

Marlon's chicken



Hi guys,

Due to the good reaction my previous blog received which was My mother-in-law Chicken Mozzarella recipe, I am now sharing this recipe Marlon's chicken which is delicious.

First of all, the chicken has to be cut between the joints so that you can get make the most of each individual piece: Legs, breast etc.

In a pestle and mortar you will crush garlic together with rosemary herbs. Once that's done, you will cover the chicken pieces with it.




Other ingredients are: Soya sauce, coriander, ground turmeric and oregano.

You could leave the seasoning on overnight so that the chicken will absorb the flavours.

For the cooking, you will put the dish in the oven for around 45 minutes or more depending on how well-cooked you'd like it to be.

As you can see, it is very simple, very tasty and it is just gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous.

Let me know how you get on.

Marlon/Marlife




Tuesday, 16 April 2019

Chicken mozzarella - Recipe



Hey guys:

As promised, here I am sharing the recipe of the Chicken mozzarella dish which I was given to me by my Mother-in-law.

It is very simple and very delicious, all you need is:

Ingredients 

Boneless chicken breasts (Obviously depending on the amount of people you're cooking for. I used 4 breasts for me and my hubby)

Mozzarella cheese (I used two small bags of it)

Spinach (I used the full bag we got) and

Whole cherry tomato & Parmesan pasta sauce





How to make it

Marinate the chicken breasts. I used Soya sauce, garlic, oregano and ground turmeric

Once they are marinated, you put them in a baking dish. Cover the breasts with the whole cherry tomato sauce, then the spinach and lastly the mozzarella. I used some of the mozzarella juice, but this totally down to you.

Put it in the oven for 45 minutes at a 180C heat.

Very very simple, but you will have a very delicious dish. I can not wait to make it again because it was gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous

Marlon/Marlife

Monday, 8 April 2019

Ruby 'You wont stop me'

       


I would like to share with #marlife's audience this song 'You won't stop', written and sang by Ruby O'kelly, a very talented girl who has used her incredible talents to shine a light on an issue that affects many many young people around the world: Bullying.

As such a young age, Ruby is 12, she wrote based on the reality she has witnessed. In her own words, she stated that...

"so many girls and boys my age struggling with their own mental health , struggling with every day life , things that should be simple and enjoyable like going to school . One night i begun to write these lyrics , then i added the music and created my first ever song . Im so proud of it but also proud of the important message in it .
You never know what someone is going through , be kind always"

I invite you to listen to the song and pay attention to compelling message this wonderful girl conveys through the lyrics. I am sure you know someone, or you could be someone, affected by this issue.

Ruby I salute you and I encourage you to continue to be an example for so many people.

Well done and I can not way to hear more from you!

   
                      

Marlon/Marlife

Wednesday, 13 March 2019

It has its wonders



We should not underestimate the power of social media.

Social media, weather we like it or not, is another way of communication. It is another way to be and stay connected, this reason on its own has power, and that power should not be down-played. I don't, anyway.

And there are plenty of reasons to try to make of social media channels a way to create and propagate goodness:

Social media has helped to solve crimes, the same way it has pissed us off because somebody "did or said" something that according to us "they should have not."

It can be frivolous as it can be very serious. It can be grim as it can be fabulous. It is totally up to us.

Through social media, we have found out when our favourite programs are on, or when our favourite restaurant is displaying a new menu, or where that girl bought that super nice dress; or where my pal got that nice shirt I like and would like to get one, too.

Moreover...

Social media allows us to talk about simple and silly things like our last selfie and very serious things like when the fuck is the UK leaving the EU? hehehe

Do not get me wrong, yes, it has a dark side, but so do have many things in life. And we do not give up life, or at least, most of us, appreciate life for what it is.

So, this opens the question, is social media the issue or the way we use it?

Social media is powerful and let's use that power for whatever you think it should be used, and more so if you use it for great purposes, whatever that purpose might be for you.

I love social media. I have done great things through SM. And I am one of those who will never say 'Facebook is very bad' on Facebook ๐Ÿ˜‰

Marlon/Marlife

Friday, 8 March 2019

That's what she said...



This happened very recently.

I had to ring the bank to report a lost card belonged to my husband.

I spoke to three different women, but the conversation with one of them turned from asking security questions to her making a genuine comment that melted my heart.

When I rang I said 'I need to report an item I lost belonged to my husband'

She said: "OK, I need to ask you a few questions, about your husband, for security reasons".

I said "Yes, go on". So she proceeded to ask me the standard questions like: Date of birth, mobile number, and other questions for "security reasons". I answered every question accordingly and she said: "Marlon you need to get John, your husband, to ring and order a new item".

I said "OK, no problem, I will do that", but for some reason I thought "Was she trying to make sure I had a husband" even though I know they are security questions. So I thought out-loud.

"Oh my god, thank god I knew all those answers, otherwise I would have not forgotten myself, after 15 years together".

And she goes "Have you been together for 15 years? WOW fair play to you guys. I am nearly 50 and still looking for love" so I said "What about being in love with yourself?" and she laughed.

My heart melted AWWWWW BLESS

It was one of those moments of realisation and gratitude I was unexpectedly in. It is important to appreciate what I have, and my hubby is my number one appreciation together with Sammy and our eleven fish ๐Ÿ˜

Life is good and wonderful...

Marlon/Marlife



Thursday, 28 February 2019

MORTALITY



Even though the banner I have used for this blog can be perceived as funny, this topic for me is not funny at all. And I am sure it is not funny for a lot of people.

I find really hard to accept with have to die and, to be totally honest, I am very terrified by the reality that one day we have to die. I keep wonder why? why? why? But it is hard to find an answer, at least for me.

My beloved mother passed away when I was 11 so, yes, I am HUGELY affected by death, hugely. When you are a happy little boy, like I was, and your mother suddenly dies, that is a very sad, painful, hard reality and that happened to me. So yes, I still cry her death even though I am now 46 : (

Now in adulthood, I have gone through the pain again and again as some beloved ones have passed away in the last 3 years or so. Now more recently, being confronted by the death of a beloved, good friend, Alli Macdonnell, I am still devastated, broken inside, really, and trying to fathom something I was not, we were not, expecting at all.

This blog is inspired by her very tragic passing. I can not understand why? why? why? So so many unanswered questions.

When I said the last "Good bye" to her, I travelled back to when I had to say "Good bye" for the last time to my own mother, and it was very very sad. Since then, I can not stop thinking about mortality. I am here struggling with the idea, or the fact, that one day we have to die.

Death sucks, Mortality sucks and I am not ready for it.

With a broken heart...

Marlon/Marlife


Wednesday, 20 February 2019

Happiness is not what it is out there, but what we make of it


This photo has gone viral. When I first saw it, I nearly cried thinking "what a moment, those children are enjoying an internal joy pretending they are taking a selfie with a sleeper."

Then when I kept looking at it, I realised there are so many beautiful messages encrypted in this very tender, powerful moment. I come from poverty so I know what I am talking about, and I have a few lessons or messages to share.


When we are poor and don't have resources, we make every little resource available a source to try to find joy.

We tend to rely more on hugs and kisses because we don't have fancy material things

We believe that happiness is  not what is out there, but the way we perceive it, so even a simple smile can look like the biggest gift ever.

We tend to appreciate more the very little we have, because most of the time it is so difficult to obtain it. So when we get it, we just truly love it.

And like in the photo, those children have in their face that sincere smile of joy created by something it is only in their imagination.

For us all, we should appreciate who we are and what we have because life, even if we live a simple one, is still full of joy.

Let's live, love and laugh.

Marlon/Marlife

Tuesday, 29 January 2019

Because sharing is caring...


As you might have notice on my social media, I am always spreading positive vibes, optimism, motivation and funny stuff in the name of love. I am always curious about finding information related to psychology, human development, etc.

Basically, I am always trying to find information that would help me become a better person. And if a piece that piece of info in worth share it, I would share it on my Facebook and/or Instagram @marlife. Some of them get good reaction, some of them, don't, but still I believe sharing is caring.

Recently, on Facebook, by chance, I came across with a page called the 'Power of Positivity' and I am in love with the page. Their mission is "to plant, nurture, and grow positive energy in the hearts and minds of  everyone, allowing them to create a better life and a more beautiful planet in alignment with the highest good".

 Needless to say I am in love with their mission and, in a way, a feel a sense of recognition.

I have been sharing some of their psychological and motivational quotes on my Facebook.

If you are into this kind of content, I encourage you to follow this page and its website www.powerofpositivity.com - and you will love it.

To finish, the reason I am sharing this is because I believe that sharing is caring.

Marlon/Marlife

Monday, 14 January 2019

"Where do you get it from?"



I find fascinating and very impressive that within half an hour job interview, the interviewer says/asks 'Where do you get your resilience from?". Mind you, this is the first time in my life I speak to this person, and for them to have that sense about me, it is very impressive.

 Obviously I told them that I got it from having to live life without my Mother who I lost when I was 11 - which is totally true. As sad as it is, I have always tried to live life with a positive outlook.

When the interview was over, I went online and research the term a little bit more, and found the definition by the American Psychological Association:

"Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors. It means "bouncing back" from difficult experiences.

Research has shown that resilience is ordinary, not extraordinary. People commonly demonstrate resilience. One example is the response of many Americans to the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks and individuals' efforts to rebuild their lives.

Being resilient does not mean that a person doesn't experience difficulty or distress. Emotional pain and sadness are common in people who have suffered major adversity or trauma in their lives. In fact, the road to resilience is likely to involve considerable emotional distress.

Resilience is not a trait that people either have or do not have. It involves behaviors, thoughts and actions that can be learned and developed in anyone."

I am still reflecting on the interview. I have also been thinking about life and about those calamities I have endured in my life, some more painful than others, but have helped me to shape the person I am today.

We'll see what happens. I am a very optimistic person, and I always try to find the lessons in every situation I am in because the lessons are always there.

Marlon/Marlife


Tuesday, 8 January 2019

We have the power to be better if we want to.

 


Even though I don't do New Year's resolutions, every year I set up myself the objective of trying to be a better person. In January, I usually reflect on the year before and I try to learn from the mistakes I made, and I always look for the lessons because the lessons are always there.

I think learning from our mistakes is pivotal if we'd like to become better as a person.

This feeling or desire of wanting to be a better person is getting stronger and bigger as I am getting older. I guess is part of trying to age gracefully both psychologically and spiritually. And I have to say, it is a great feeling.

This year, I also integrated to my goal of becoming better, to learn more, to read more and to be more curious about knowing new things, exploring new things. As part of all this, I have decided to improve my spoken English. I would like to be able to have a better pronunciation in English. I know I have a strong accent - which is OK, but my elocution is something I have started to work on.

I have set up some exercises for this purpose. The below clip shows how my practice is helping me. I know I have a very long and endless road to travel, however, I am enjoying so much the start of this journey.

I believe we can achieve everything we want in life. I believe we can become better at whatever we would like to be better at. The first step is wanting it, once that desire is in us, we do have the power in our hands to do everything we can to achieve our goals - which is very rewarding.

We have the power to be better if we want to!

I am on that journey and I am happy to share it with you and the rest of the world. Thank you for allowing me to do so.



                        


Marlon/Marlife