Monday, 14 January 2019
"Where do you get it from?"
I find fascinating and very impressive that within half an hour job interview, the interviewer says/asks 'Where do you get your resilience from?". Mind you, this is the first time in my life I speak to this person, and for them to have that sense about me, it is very impressive.
Obviously I told them that I got it from having to live life without my Mother who I lost when I was 11 - which is totally true. As sad as it is, I have always tried to live life with a positive outlook.
When the interview was over, I went online and research the term a little bit more, and found the definition by the American Psychological Association:
"Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors. It means "bouncing back" from difficult experiences.
Research has shown that resilience is ordinary, not extraordinary. People commonly demonstrate resilience. One example is the response of many Americans to the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks and individuals' efforts to rebuild their lives.
Being resilient does not mean that a person doesn't experience difficulty or distress. Emotional pain and sadness are common in people who have suffered major adversity or trauma in their lives. In fact, the road to resilience is likely to involve considerable emotional distress.
Resilience is not a trait that people either have or do not have. It involves behaviors, thoughts and actions that can be learned and developed in anyone."
I am still reflecting on the interview. I have also been thinking about life and about those calamities I have endured in my life, some more painful than others, but have helped me to shape the person I am today.
We'll see what happens. I am a very optimistic person, and I always try to find the lessons in every situation I am in because the lessons are always there.